Having teen trouble

[Layddually2]

I have recently found out one of my 16 yo is cutting her self. Anyone her ever felt with anything like this? You can pm me if you want to keep it private. I dont know what to do with her. She wont talk to me about it. She told her sister it's because her sister is better at every thing than her. Her sister told me her "boyfriend" is a cutter and has been encouraging her to cut.

[baby1]

Re: Having teen trouble

I have recently found out one of my 16 yo is cutting her self. Anyone her ever felt with anything like this? You can pm me if you want to keep it private. I dont know what to do with her. She wont talk to me about it. She told her sister it's because her sister is better at every thing than her. Her sister told me her "boyfriend" is a cutter and has been encouraging her to cut.

I am so sorry to hear this. I have a niece that starting doing that around that age but she did end up stopping. I can not tell you how to handle this but if it were my daughter, I would seek her some help whether she wants it or not. Forbidding her to see the boyfriend will only throw her at him more, as that is usually what happens when we tell our kids "not" to. I guess you could confront the bf, but that may not be the best idea either. I can only imagine what you must feel like. Those years are always so tough and even more so in this day and age. Will keep you and your family in my prayers.

baby1

[Lujannoe]

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My buddies daughter was a cutter. He handled it a bit differently. Instead of telling her to quit and blowing it up. He showed her how to sharpen knives and use alcohol to keep everything sterile. He told her that if she wanted to do it to go ahead. Its hurting no one except her self and he would love her either way. She stopped soon after. He believed she was doing it for attention when he showed her it wasnt as bad as she thought and gave her attention it ended. But good luck with it. Cutting is dangerous if not handled.

The Noe

[baby1]

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My buddies daughter was a cutter. He handled it a bit differently. Instead of telling her to quit and blowing it up. He showed her how to sharpen knives and use alcohol to keep everything sterile. He told her that if she wanted to do it to go ahead. Its hurting no one except her self and he would love her either way. She stopped soon after. He believed she was doing it for attention when he showed her it wasnt as bad as she thought and gave her attention it ended. But good luck with it. Cutting is dangerous if not handled.

The Noe

That is an option and it is good that that worked, howevr, it could go the opposite way and the child may think the parent doesnt care about them. Such a hard thing

[MuscleAddiction]

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Well I am on my phone otherwise would be typing a book...what has been said by both Baby and the Noe are both things to think about, but bottom line is just be there for her, show her your love and affection even if she pushes it away, do what you can do as a dad for your girl, sounds like impulsive behavior and attention that she wants, but yes maybe speaking with a therapist would be a good idea. My teen is now 21 and went from good to not so, not getting into it but teens are very very tricky to deal with, but your buddy had the right idea in a sense...but a bit dangerous too like Baby said. We are here, if I get anymore helpful info I will be back!!!

Stay strong for the both of you!!!

[Layddually2]

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Thanks. This isnt completely new to me as a teen I didn't cut I tattooed. I actually liked the feeling. The last one I got took 8 hrs and I slept thru most of it. She didn't do this before this boy came around. My wife wanted me to confront him but uh yea that wouldn't end well.

[Big Hoss]

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That breaks my heart to hear that Layddually2. I have a niece that didn't cut, but had an eating disorder. We counseled with her and supported her and she more or less "grew" out of it and matured. You can always try the intervention route. It usually has much success. I'll keep her and your family in our thoughts & prayers. Take care.

[Layddually2]

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Thanks Hoss it broke my heart when I found out. She was wearing long sleves all winter so no one saw. She has cuts about 1/4" apart from wrist to elbow both arms. When I saw it I couldn't speak all I could do was hold her.

[zedhed]

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Bro am sorry to hear this. Kids huh....I have to say I really have no idea what the right thing to do is but I would very seriously consider getting the influence of that POS away from her. Not that it would be right but I would threaten that little son of a bitch with his life. I would also make certian that he knew I would be constantly checking "around" to see if he having contact with her. But like I said prolly not the right thing to do. You and yours def have my prayers bro.

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[Ironguruera]

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1st things first kill her bf. ill help dig the hole if u fly me out! Wtf!?!
I agree with baby get her professional help and encourage her with whatever hobbies she is good at and likes.

[Layddually2]

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Bro am sorry to hear this. Kids huh....I have to say I really have no idea what the right thing to do is but I would very seriously consider getting the influence of that POS away from her. Not that it would be right but I would threaten that little son of a bitch with his life. I would also make certian that he knew I would be constantly checking "around" to see if he having contact with her. But like I said prolly not the right thing to do. You and yours def have my prayers bro.

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Yea that was a thought. Wish my boy was still around, him with no shirt on standing next to me would be all that needed to be done. LOL god I wish I was his size. Wife even asked if he would be back anytime soon she had same thought.

[zedhed]

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I just I could feally give you some kind of really good advice but thats all Ive got bro.

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[Layddually2]

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1st things first kill her bf. ill help dig the hole if u fly me out! Wtf!?!
I agree with baby get her professional help and encourage her with whatever hobbies she is good at and likes.

Haha yea I this cave that no one knows about LOL

[MuscleAddiction]

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Thanks. This isnt completely new to me as a teen I didn't cut I tattooed. I actually liked the feeling. The last one I got took 8 hrs and I slept thru most of it. She didn't do this before this boy came around. My wife wanted me to confront him but uh yea that wouldn't end well.

Yeah...be careful, but know EXACTLY where you are coming from. Just like my therapist told me...if I want to cure my anxiety issue, get rid of the source of anxiety...which was my oldest daughter...and still is lol!!! Damn kids...well some .

[MuscleAddiction]

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1st things first kill her bf. ill help dig the hole if u fly me out! Wtf!?!
I agree with baby get her professional help and encourage her with whatever hobbies she is good at and likes.

I will call you when I need a boyfriend extraction!!!