What's my motivation? I hope this doesnt sound stupid but its the truth.My first husband and father of my kids cheated on me ALOT. I lost a son and had let myself go physically and had bad depression, no motivation. Then one day I decided I was going to get off my ass, leave him, and better myself. Now he is married to some out of shape lady that is 15 years older than him..and im sure he cheats on her too. I'm sure it kills him to have to see me all pretty and in shape lol. Ahhhh revenge