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  • #16
    Big respect for you Manny. You have handled everything like a true champ. Everyone wants picture perfect but, life is so different for everyone. The communication with the kids are key. Couldn't talk to my x after the divorce but talked to the kids. It made all the difference in the world. My x will say shitty comments about me and, my kids will call her on her shit. They know the truth and are more grounded because of it. So your posts before show the love you have for your family. Adapt and overcome. Enjoy the new family. Just tell the kids they have more grandparents to fleece on holidays. Win win

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    • #17
      Re: Fucked up in the head right now

      Originally posted by ordawg1 View Post
      We had this situation with our daughter.Her & hubby just couldn't get along.She ( or daughter) didn't move back home-but she runs my business plus has 4 children.Working for me allows her much freedom -plus she earns 3 times what husband does.We didn't take sides as inlaws and just let them work on it. My son in law came to me many times in tears asking for advice.The daughter did the same plus the 4 grandbabies are here quite a bit and they had questions. Long story short after a year of being apart I talked them into dating and COMMUNICATING with each other.Today they are back together and happier than ever. BUT-I think the seperation was a good thing.He learned respect- she learned that she still wanted the family together. It is very difficult being a Dad-grandpa-plus a father in law and be friends with all.Is a tough situation and " might" take time.They are together today and struggling with $$ as they SPEND way too much. But-the important thing is they worked things out over time so it would turn out OK. Maybe give it some time Manny-feel your way around.Just my 2 cents from an old guys perspective-Luck on ya-OD
      You are the Grand Poobah aren't you O'Dawg? That was a great story and you hit one of the 4 major components and means for any successful marriage or relationship...communication! The other three are love, honesty, & trust. I have gain much more respect for you my friend...what a great man you are!
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      We can do all things through Christ who strengthens us! (Philippians 4:13)


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      • #18
        Re: Fucked up in the head right now

        Originally posted by Manny1983 View Post
        Talked to my oldest daughter tonight cuz she was crying when my x left (my little 1 is sick so she was over for awhile) and she told me that she doesn't want us to be separated and she's sad n that she thinks about it in school n gets sad sometimes. I tried explaining things to her as best as I could n made it clear that we both love her n her sister very much but this is what's best and that if she's ever feeling sad she can always call me n talk or talk to her mom or grandparents (x moved back home) she calmed down n said she understands but she's still sad. I started crying lol but I think that actually helped to cuz she saw that I love her n want her to feel happy.
        That is what you do bro...comfort and console your little girls and daddy to let them know everything will be alright, and that they are loved unconditionally, shit bro I cry everytime I think of my girls, they bring me so much joy in my life and I never want to be without them daily! You are a good man Manny, you are not fucked up in the head...in fact the complete opposite if you ask me bro. Things will be beautiful in your world from here on out as long as you put those little girls 1st !
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        We can do all things through Christ who strengthens us! (Philippians 4:13)


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        • #19
          Re: Fucked up in the head right now

          Thanks guys it's been a real help talking about this with someone other than the guy in the mirror.

          Yeah I told her they are what are most important. I went as far as to explain to her that when mommy starts dating someone she needs to give them a chance so mommy can be with someone and be happy and the same for me (she doesn't know I'm dating someone) she said she doesn't want a new mommy or daddy and I told her that no one is ever going to replace mommy or daddy but that we can't be alone for the rest of our lives and although she's only 7 I told her its the same thing for when she gets older she isn't going to want to be alone and she seemed to understand.

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          • #20
            Re: Fucked up in the head right now

            Originally posted by Manny1983 View Post
            Thanks guys it's been a real help talking about this with someone other than the guy in the mirror.

            Yeah I told her they are what are most important. I went as far as to explain to her that when mommy starts dating someone she needs to give them a chance so mommy can be with someone and be happy and the same for me (she doesn't know I'm dating someone) she said she doesn't want a new mommy or daddy and I told her that no one is ever going to replace mommy or daddy but that we can't be alone for the rest of our lives and although she's only 7 I told her its the same thing for when she gets older she isn't going to want to be alone and she seemed to understand.
            My youngest daughter will be 7 in January...she understands more than I ever knew bro, I'm sure your girls know, just want reassurance!!! Love the shit out of them at this time...they are your priority, and hopefully your new girl will understand that and not get jealous!
            Do nothing from selfish ambition or conceit, but in humility count others more significant than yourselves. (Philippians 2:3)

            We can do all things through Christ who strengthens us! (Philippians 4:13)


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            • #21
              Re: Fucked up in the head right now

              Originally posted by MuscleAddiction View Post
              My youngest daughter will be 7 in January...she understands more than I ever knew bro, I'm sure your girls know, just want reassurance!!! Love the shit out of them at this time...they are your priority, and hopefully your new girl will understand that and not get jealous!
              Yeah she knows what's up, I let her know they come first n if she doesn't treat them good I'm leaving her

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              • #22
                Re: Fucked up in the head right now

                As long as you gave it everything in terms of trying to make it work and she did the same, than moving on is the best thing you could do. You only get 1 time to go around this world so make it the best you can.
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                • #23
                  I wish you the best of luck and I know it's now easy to make decisions like this.....but you did the right thing....everyone is here for ya bro.....I have 2 kids with my wife and couldn't imagine splitting up.....try to keep your dick up

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                  • #24
                    Re: Fucked up in the head right now

                    lmao my girl kicked me out of the house friday morning and now she realizes that I am actually gone and she wants me back. I'm not going to get suckered back in again. I feel bad but in the long run I think that this is the best thing for the best of us. All of my shit is at her place and I am staying at my dads house for now until I save up a few dollars to get a new place.

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                    • #25
                      Originally posted by ordawg1 View Post
                      We had this situation with our daughter.Her & hubby just couldn't get along.She ( or daughter) didn't move back home-but she runs my business plus has 4 children.Working for me allows her much freedom -plus she earns 3 times what husband does.We didn't take sides as inlaws and just let them work on it. My son in law came to me many times in tears asking for advice.The daughter did the same plus the 4 grandbabies are here quite a bit and they had questions. Long story short after a year of being apart I talked them into dating and COMMUNICATING with each other.Today they are back together and happier than ever. BUT-I think the seperation was a good thing.He learned respect- she learned that she still wanted the family together. It is very difficult being a Dad-grandpa-plus a father in law and be friends with all.Is a tough situation and " might" take time.They are together today and struggling with $$ as they SPEND way too much. But-the important thing is they worked things out over time so it would turn out OK. Maybe give it some time Manny-feel your way around.Just my 2 cents from an old guys perspective-Luck on ya-OD
                      OD, amazing advice. I wish all parents were like this and helped the situation not break the situation. To many times families always pick sides and hinder true reality by putting false jaded fiction in their heads and makes everyone an enemy.

                      Op, time will heal wounds bro as well as help the kids to understand. Long road brother. I'm here if you need to talk!
                      When I die I want to be called a friend or family member by everyone I came into contact with!!!

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