Having teen trouble

[baby1]

Re: Having teen trouble

I dont think this situation is exactly like addiction. Maybe it could be dealt with that way and maybe not? Tough love is something that needs to be done in situations, but I am not sure about that with this. Showing your child you love them is not enabling them.

In all honesty, noone can tell you what to do, we can only offer advice, experience and opinions. You have to go with how YOU feel about this. You know your daughter and we dont. If you dont think you dont want her to see a professional about this situation, I think it would be wise for you to talk to a professional about what is going on. They can offer you ways to deal with her and the problems she is having. Problems that our children have become a problem for the whole family and it is imperative for all of the family to be educated on the situation at hand.

[MuscleAddiction]

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I dont think this situation is exactly like addiction. Maybe it could be dealt with that way and maybe not? Tough love is something that needs to be done in situations, but I am not sure about that with this. Showing your child you love them is not enabling them.

In all honesty, noone can tell you what to do, we can only offer advice, experience and opinions. You have to go with how YOU feel about this. You know your daughter and we dont. If you dont think you dont want her to see a professional about this situation, I think it would be wise for you to talk to a professional about what is going on. They can offer you ways to deal with her and the problems she is having. Problems that our children have become a problem for the whole family and it is imperative for all of the family to be educated on the situation at hand.

^^^ this!!!

[baby1]

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One more thing, I am giving you my opinion as a Mom, fathers often deal with things differently, but not always.

[Vicious 13]

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Obviously he doesn't know his daughter... Just like addiction my parents didn't know me they knew who I used to be. The problem w America is we don't do the tough love anymore and we get caught up in this everyone feel sorry for me give me pills to make me feel better blah blah blah it's bs


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[Vicious 13]

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And body mutation/modification (tattoos) is an addiction the enjoy the rush and the pain they become addicted to it.


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[Vicious 13]

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Or even the attention I know people that have started using just to b noticed or just to b cool. She's not old enough to make her own smart decisions so they need to b made for her that's my opinion


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[baby1]

Re: Having teen trouble

Obviously he doesn't know his daughter... Just like addiction my parents didn't know me they knew who I used to be. The problem w America is we don't do the tough love anymore and we get caught up in this everyone feel sorry for me give me pills to make me feel better blah blah blah it's bs


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You are right in the fact that he obviously didnt know what his daughter was doing, however, he she is his daughter and I would bet he knows about her and how to deal with her. I just hope whatever path is chosen, she gets better.

I guess some would just sit back and do nothing but me, I wouldnt take a chance with that when a child is this young. The suicide rate amongst teens is higher than it ever has been. I blame that partly on all the electronics, social media etc and also when both parents have to work, that can be a strain on kids in these very trying years. Some people do not have a choice and they have to both work but when they have the time, quality family time should be made.

[Layddually2]

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Rehab and tough love made me worse. I started when I was 12 was in juvy at 13 rehab at 14 left home at 15. I got clean on my own at 19 when my gf was preg with twins.

[MuscleAddiction]

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Vic bro...you are arguing with a very strong mom lol...both have valid points, Baby knows a little what I am going through with my oldest who just turned 21 on the 9th...but all this started when she hit 18 and she knew she was being considered an adult...even though she was a VERY immature teen, she ran with it knowing us as parents didn't have a leg to stand on anymore and no control over her...guess where she is now ...heartbreaking!!! But Baby is right and Vic you ha e valid points on some things...I am a dad and I thought I knew my daughter...but I do know my little girl and DO practice tough love with the oldest!!!

[baby1]

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Its ok MA, we are not arguing. We just have different opinions here and that is okay. I respect how others feel even when they dont agree with me.

[Layddually2]

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And body mutation/modification (tattoos) is an addiction the enjoy the rush and the pain they become addicted to it.


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And yes I know this too I have had around 20 tattoos on me some have been removed some covered and yes I want another but wife wants me to remove more.

[Layddually2]

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We have her set up to see some one. Vic if you knew this girl you would understand tough love would make her worse or even suicidal. It's a very touchy thing basically though my plan of attack right now (last chance before psych hosp) is to love her, help her find some thing she wants to do for a hobby, she now also is going to be volunteer at children hosp this summer in the unit where there are teens that are fighting for their lives. Yes I am going to spoil her because like I said her twin has gotten most of the attention all her life.

MA yes I love that movie but didn't catch the hidden meaning. I will watch with her for sure. If she does get to go to Hawaii I'm definitely getting her surf lessons.

[MuscleAddiction]

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We have her set up to see some one. Vic if you knew this girl you would understand tough love would make her worse or even suicidal. It's a very touchy thing basically though my plan of attack right now (last chance before psych hosp) is to love her, help her find some thing she wants to do for a hobby, she now also is going to be volunteer at children hosp this summer in the unit where there are teens that are fighting for their lives. Yes I am going to spoil her because like I said her twin has gotten most of the attention all her life.

MA yes I love that movie but didn't catch the hidden meaning. I will watch with her for sure. If she does get to go to Hawaii I'm definitely getting her surf lessons.

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[Vicious 13]

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I don't mean to argue I know this is a tough situation I just was stating how I feel and what helped me. Things I've seen with friends that's all. I've been through it so I see it different I guess


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[Layddually2]

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I don't mean to argue I know this is a tough situation I just was stating how I feel and what helped me. Things I've seen with friends that's all. I've been through it so I see it different I guess


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For some people it is the way to go. Like I said in an earlier post I have been thru it too and tough love made me worse. When I was 15 I left home on my way out my dad tried to stop me I told him if he ever touch me again I would kill him. When my twins where born we made ammends. He died from prostate cancer about 5 yrs later.

But guess what? Had he once told me that I did some thing right or showed that he cared I probably wouldn't have been like I was. After I had my kids he praised me and told everyone how proud of me he was.